Feeling stuck…like you can’t seem to change, even though you want to?

I got off a call with my coach yesterday, and we were talking about something I need to share with you because it might help you take some action and move forward toward your health and fitness goals…permanently.


Maybe you’ve been trying to lose weight, and you go down a few pounds and then you go back to where you started.


You plan a bunch of meals, then the next week, it’s back to ordering out every night.


You exercise for three weeks, then you take off for three months.


You want to change, but you just can’t seem to make it permanent.


You are feeling stuck and not feeling too great about it.


Maybe you have feelings of feeling invisible, feeling under appreciated, frustration, anxiety, stupidity, self-loathing, and so on.


WHEN YOU HAVE THESE FEELINGS (ask yourself what percentage of the day you feel this way), that means you are in a state of suffering, rather than in a state of joy, happiness, or delight.


WHEN YOU ARE IN A STATE OF SUFFERING, you are in sympathetic overdrive…the “Fight or Flight” mode that you’ve most certainly heard of.


You probably know that when you are in “Fight or Flight,” your body and mind are in survival mode!


Have you heard of cortisol belly? That’s when you get fat deposited in your belly region due to excess cortisol.


Excess cortisol comes from being in “Fight or Flight” mode!


Here’s the kicker…it doesn’t have to be “Oh my gosh, I’m so stressed out from work, taking care of my kids/parents, etc.”


Excess cortisol and belly fat can come from ANY type of stress, including your emotions and feelings like the ones listed above.


So now what?


First, recognize that if you are in a “state of suffering” by either your feeling stuck or by having negative emotions, then you’ll know if you are in “Fight or Flight.”


Second, do something to change your mood and your state.

  1. Get moving!
    Tony Robbins talks about “Change your physiology to change your state.” Before he goes on stage, he bounces on a mini-trampoline and when he’s on stage, he is always moving!You can stand up and do some jumping jacks or get down on the floor and do some push-ups. If you are at work, go for a walk and take the stairs up and down a few times.
  2. Do something that gives you joy.
    Snuggle with your dog, or play with your child. Read a funny story, or watch a funny video. Play some ’80’s music and rock out!
    Make a commitment to yourself to feel joy throughout the day.
  3. Make sure your goals are clear and specific.
    You know where you are going! While this doesn’t exactly change your state, it gives you focus and gets you away from the, “I don’t know why I’m here/what I’m working towards” feelings.

We all experience negative emotions, but those who can get themselves turned around quickly will have greater success.

“Success is buried on the other side of frustration.” ~Tony Robbins


P.S. Did you read the post about curbing your sweet tooth?  It’s a good one!