Your goals are all wrong (only if you have NOT had success)

Most women tell me they want to reach these goals:

  • Lose weight
  • Be healthy
  • Get stronger
  • Be more flexible

They’ve tried lots of different programs or only a few, but either way, they never reached those goals or if they did, the results didn’t last forever.

The reason they didn’t reach their goals or they didn’t last was because they never truly felt that they were really the woman, who, deep down inside, is a woman who could lose weight, be healthy, get stronger or be flexible.

If you haven’t seen the success you longed for than your goals might be all wrong.

How do you change that?

Make an identity based goal.

An identity based goal is one that deals with who you believe you are deep down inside.

I’m a woman who is an exerciser. I have no doubts about that, it’s who I am and therefore, I get up even when I don’t want to and exercise.

But…. how do you go about changing your identity or how you really see yourself deep down?

James Clear reminds us:

“Your current behaviors are simply a reflection of your current identity. What you do now is a mirror image of the type of person you believe that you are (either consciously or subconsciously).
To change your behavior for good, you need to start believing new things about yourself. You need to build identity-based habits.”

Start with deciding what type of person you want to be.

Don’t look at the obstacles or current proof of why you can’t be this “new” person. DECIDE who you want to be.

Then you have to start finding proof of the possibilities.

Side note: This is why, at Her Fitness, we discuss our Win of The Week and we had a Win board at the studio….PROOF that we can make change and have success.

Journalling is very helpful because the negatives can always be remembered, but the positives are hard to pull up. When you write down your Wins or proofs and then re-read them, you remind yourself that you can be the person you want to be.

Do you want to become healthy?

What do healthy women do? They exercise or move their bodies regularly.

What’s a small WIN/PROOF? (these are the identity based habits Clear is talking about)

“I stretched for 10 minutes today”

“I went for a 30 minute walk”

“I signed up for personal training” 😉

When you begin doing small things, daily, they add up. By the end of the year, you have become a woman who exercises regularly and people who exercise regularly tend to be healthy.