10 Ways to Grow

At Her Fitness we believe that growing into your highest potential take practice and  is “a” practice, either way you are practicing to become a better you.

Here are 10 Ways To Grow:

1. Stop comparing yourself to others and to your past self.

Comparing yourself to another person takes your power away. It means you are giving other people (or your past self) control over you and your actions.

For example, you might compare yourself to a super-model and think “I’m not good enough” or “I can’t enjoy an ice cream cone with my kids because if I want to be as thin as a super-model, I can’t do that.”  When skipping that ice cream is changing the way you act and your relationships in a negative way, you aren’t being your best self.

Be you. There’s no one else in the world like you and that’s wonderful!

2. Your failures are how you learn.

Carol Dweck’s book “Growth Mindset” is where I first learned and accepted that failures are just a stepping stone. I had a “fixed” mindset and thought that if I failed at something that it meant I was stupid and wouldn’t ever be able to do it. Not so!

Any time you fail or don’t get something exactly right, it’s an opportunity to grow and get better.

This is true even with your physical self and fitness. Some exercises are more complex than others and it takes many, many times before you execute them with reliability.

3. Slow Down.

Being busy is a very good way to avoid your own thoughts, but if you want to grow and be the best version of yourself, you have to pay attention to the thoughts that are rolling through your head.

Slow down, pay attention and then decide if what you are saying to yourself is helping you or hindering your growth.

4. Change negative self talk.

If you are constantly telling yourself negative things that aren’t true now, you will live up to that talk and you’ll say things like “I’m stuck” or “I can’t get out of my own way.”

For every negative thing you say, say two positives. One to negate and one to move forward.

5. Do it even if you don’t like it.

I’m talking about your habits that move you forward that aren’t that comfortable yet. Let’s say you want to write a book, but writing isn’t something you do every day. Get some grit and write every single day so you can reach your goal instead of just talking about it.

6. Make a decision and keep going.

​Some people take longer to mull things over and make a decision. Other people make quick, uninformed decisions, but once you’ve got enough or all the information you need, make a choice and go with it.

It’s like stealing a base.  Once you decide to steal, go for it and don’t stop until you get there! (side note: I was an excellent base runner on my high school softball team, but the other parts of the game – not so much!)

7. Happiness is a choice.

Some people are happy with what little they have and some people are crabby with all that they have. It’s up to you.

8.Don’t be a victim.

We’ve all had bad things happen. It doesn’t have to define you and your future. Pick yourself up and move on. It doesn’t mean those bad things didn’t hurt, it just means you can still pick yourself up and move on.

9. Eliminate “I can’t”

If I tell you how many times I’ve heard women say “I can’t give up coffee!” or “I can’t give up cheese!”, your head would spin.

Yes. Yes you can give up coffee and cheese. No one has a gun to your head.

Saying “I can’t”  creates helplessness. You are NOT helpless.

10. Spend time with people who want to lift you up, make you better and want to see you do and have positive things.

You’ll never grow to your highest potential if you’re constantly hearing how you “can’t”, “were never made for”, “our family just doesn’t do that”, and so on.

There are plenty of people who are willing to see your potential even if you can’t see it for yourself right now. Go hang around them. They are your cheerleaders and the ones who make you smile.