Is this you? “I’m too tired to go to the gym. It’s okay if I miss one day” or “This slice of pizza/candy bar/ extra glass of wine won’t make that much of a difference.” Well, sometimes it doesn’t matter, but most of the time it does matter and it will make a difference if you reach your goals or not! I’m sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but your day-to-day actions and thoughts do have consequences.
So what’s the secret? Why are some moms successful in their fat loss journey and others not so successful? How do they have the strength and willpower to follow healthy habits 90% of the time and you don’t? Well, it might be easier than you think!
The NUMBER ONE KEY to reaching your fat loss goals is figuring out WHY you want to lose the weight/fat in the first place. Don’t make the biggest mistake of all and blow this off! It is absolutely necessary to know your deep-down “why” or the motivation to make changes and be happy doing it just isn’t there! Don’t get me wrong. There are lots of ways to help motivate you to go to the gym and eat cantaloupe instead of ice cream, but for you to have the strength day in and day out you must have a big enough reason.
Weight loss is the number one goal of my mommy clients and on the surface it’s true, but deep down, it’s not enough. Weight (fat) loss for the sake of weight (fat) loss is just not important enough when you’re trying to get the kids to school in the morning and you think there is no time to make your own breakfast or you’re out with the girls and everyone is eating high calorie appetizers and drinking wine. You’re hierarchy of thought is “I have to get the kids to school on time” or “I want to have fun with the girls and I can’t do that if I’m not eating and drinking what they are.”
What if your thoughts were different? What if you thought, “I have to eat breakfast because that will help me lose weight (fat) which will help me enjoy biking with my family?” What if you thought, “By doing my workout today I will boost my metabolism which will help me burn fat so when I go on vacation with my family I will feel proud and confident and won’t hide in baggy clothes behind my kids in the photos?”
Those examples are reasons you’ll want to stick with your plan and feel empowered not deprived! Now you can see how eating supportively and exercising regularly start to take on new meaning and actually become pleasant and rewarding!
Here are some action steps to help you find your deep-down “Why.”
- List all of the reasons you want to lose weight (fat). Any and all.
- If you come up with “To Feel Better” be more specific. What does feeling better mean? What will feeling better allow you to do, act and be?
- If you’re having trouble than list all of the things that make you unhappy about carrying extra pounds and then write the opposite.
- Circle the reasons that motivate and excite you the most. The reasons that are just for you and not someone else. The positive ones that you don’t want to live without any longer.
- Write these down on a note card.
- Read these reasons every single day upon waking and upon going to bed and anytime in between.
Finding your deep down purpose to exercise regularly, avoid eating garbage, get the proper amount of sleep, limit alcohol and make other healthy choices is the first step of any successful fat loss program. Figure out your “why” today!